........ you know what I really fucking hate?

Gatekeepers. Pretty much all of them.

"You're not queer enough!"
"Your oppression isn't the same!"
"You're not trans* enough!"
"You can't dye your hair!"
"You can't wear makeup!"
"You can't wear form-fitting clothes!"
"Your disability isn't visible enough to participate in this discussion!"

"YOU DON'T EXIST."

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So I figured I'd continue my tradition of being one day late, because guess what - yesterday was National Coming Out Day in the UK!

I'd been planning to do a little write-up of RCH for a while now.
As most of you well know, I'm a big football fan. The real football. You might call it soccer - I won't.


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Granted, it was National Coming Out Day, and I'm not USian.

However! I wanted to share some of my coming out stories with you.

I'm out to pretty much everyone in my life, except for my grandmother and some other older relatives. That's frankly too much of a hassle to even contemplate.
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The Awesome, the Awesome, and the Fucking Awful:

1) Book giveaway!

I'm giving away a brandnew copy of Julie Kagawa's The Iron King. To enter, go over to the giveaway entry over at my (our!) new comm,
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The Bad

You might have heard about Charlotte Lewis accusing Roman Polanski of raping her in the 1980s.

My Dad: "People who come forward with this kind of accusation should be sentenced to lifetime imprisonment, never mind whether it happened or not."
My Mom: "Isn't this time-barred by now anyway? Well, who cares."

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Arguing about racism in meatspace has roughly ten times the potential to make me want to claw my face off with my bare hands than arguing about it online has.

Because when a person sits right next to you (or opposite to you) and tells you things like:

• "So you're saying that because I'm white I'm a racist?"
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I was going to post about this, and then I wasn't, and then I said "Fuck this!" and wrote it up anyway. This is as much for you as it is a reference point for me. First of all, the (typically mild mannered, seriously you guys, aces are have a ridiculously high logic bomber & appeaser to nuker rate) outrage over at
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I was perusing the Gender 201 post over at Below the Belt - Deconstructing Gender and made the mistake of thinking "Hey, maybe they have other interesting recent posts!".

What I found was this: "The Label Fable"


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